Despite reporting the extreme happiness and joy of motherhood, one of the key findings in this research is that moms feel the need for more respect. We asked moms about the extent to which they feel respected by others, and only 35% think that moms are highly respected. In fact, more than 8 in 10 moms (84%) would say that being a mom is not given the respect it deserves. [Figure 5]
Moms Need and Want Help
The reason why moms deserve more respect should be obvious. Even though women have made great strides through the ages and have increased their status in society significantly, the majority of moms still report having the sole responsibility for managing their household.
In our study, two-thirds of moms (67%) make 80% or more household purchases for things like groceries, clothes, housewares, etc. [Figure 6] But this majority share of responsibility extends well beyond household purchases. Moms are also responsible for the majority of household chores, along with the majority of responsibility for raising their children.
Approximately 73% of moms admit that household chores/responsibilities fall mostly, if not completely, on their shoulders. Only around 1 in 5 (23%) claim that these chores are shared equally. [Figure 7] Regarding child raising, a full two-thirds (67%) of moms claim that they are given more, if not most or all, of the responsibility. [Figure 8]
Carrying the Weight of the World
Needless to say, having this awesome responsibility resting on a mom's shoulders will have its side effects in the form of stress. Top causes of stress among moms include "trying to get everything done/keeping everything organized" (16%), "disciplining kids/dealing with temper tantrums" (15%) and "taking care of children's needs/activities" (12%). [Figure 9]
Moms explain in their own words how the job can be hectic at times:
"Paying for all the activities and organizing time for everything around homework, church, family and school hours. School activities are expensive -- and that's not always easy to budget for."
"Probably finding the time to do it all and finding the patience not to completely lose it on a day when my toddlers are being particularly toddler-ish."
"Trying to find a good balance to get everything done. With an infant still breastfeeding, I find little time to do much other than taking care of him."
"Trying to fit it all in. None of the four children can drive and it is primarily my responsibility to escort all of the kids to their individual activities."
"Being pulled in several directions at one time. My daughter needs attention. The house needs to be picked up, the meal needs to be prepared, my son is asking questions and no one seems to listen when I tell them to do something."