Lacking Spontaneity? Here's How to Plan for It

All you need is a well-thought-out plan on how to stop planning so you can have more fun!

Don’t have a single spontaneous bone in your body? Don’t worry -- you can cultivate spontaneity by following the advice on how to become more spontaneous. Which, come to think of it, doesn’t sound all that spontaneous at all. In fact, one might argue it’s completely premeditated.

Oh, well, if the only way you can break free of your routines is by making a to-do list on how not to use to-do lists, who are we to argue?

Here are just a few ways you can pretend you’re acting on a whim: Cancel all plans, because nothing says free-spirited like responsibly tidying up your calendar to make sure you’ve got no previous commitments befor letting loose.

Break out of your comfort zone: According to author Ami Angelowicz that means no checking email or going to the gym. Boy, she wasn’t kidding when she said she needs to have more fun.

Treat and scare yourself: First, do something really indulgent, like eat some frozen yogurt, says Angelowicz. Then scare the bejeezus out of yourself, by going bungee jumping or skydiving or getting a tattoo. Whatever you do, do not think about this lady who got a nasty gash during a ziplining accident and then ended up with a flesh-eating bacteria that resulted in her leg being amputated. Or, maybe you do want to think about her, because that would just raise the fear factor level even more.

Also, no matter what, do not feel guilty about wherever your whims lead you.

Once you’ve got that all mastered, there’s just one thing left to do so you can be freewheeling and fancy-free: Institute a mandatory and planned spontaneous weekend, preferably once a month.

And to think that until this moment, I never thought of myself as spontaneous. But now I realize I am. My friend invited me to dinner last night -- off-the-cuff, no prior discussions! -- and I’m going, tonight! How crazy and off the wall is that?

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