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Lady Gaga has dealt with her share of body shaming, eating disorders, and negative comparisons to other artists. This week, she took to Twitter to address some nasty critiques that people have posted about her -- and she did it without engaging in any negativity.
When it comes to insults, body shaming, and comparisons to other women, we should follow the advice of 1980’s cult classics and realize that the only way to win is not to play. When we buy into stereotypes of beauty and a culture of comparison, we give them power over us. That’s how we end up saying ridiculous things like, “Real women have curves” or “She’d be pretty if she just lost weight.” It’s also how we spend billions of dollars trying to look closer to a stereotype that we’ll never achieve. It’s why we care more about how actors, singers and dancers, and administrative assistants look than how they act, sing, dance or type. It’s how women end up believing that being pretty is the most important thing. It drives self-hatred, disordered eating, and several billion-dollar industries. I’ve seen a meme floating around Facebook this week that says “If women stopped hating themselves, how many industries would go out of business?” Now that’s a damn good question.
It doesn’t have to be this way, we can stop buying into this culture. If we did, the culture would have no choice but to change. We can face the criticism dead on and, instead of answering it, we can tell them that, frankly hater, I just don’t give a damn. The next time someone tries to pull you down into this, try responding like this: