When we talk about in-laws, we're almost always talking about mothers-in-law, it seems, with sisters-in-law running a close second. What is it about the other women in our men's lives, the ones they grew up with and who, presumably, helped shape them into the guys we love? Some of us are lucky enough to become fast friends with these women, to find an additional set of shoulders to lean on, even to discover a replacement for a mother we lost or are distant from. But then there are the difficult cases -- and from the number of "Oh, you've been there, too?" responses on the boards, it seems that in-law troubles are pretty darn common. Here are four of the most common scenarios as described by members -- and advice from other iVillagers who are coping with similar situations.
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"We Have Very Different Lifestyles."
The problem: iVillager Jamikmc laments that her mom-in-law is a very poor housekeeper, and when she and her husband go to visit both of their families (who live close to each other), they always avoid camping at his mother's house. "She is completely able to clean if she was willing. She knows her home is a cluttered mess, and even jokes about it, but does nothing to improve it," says Jamikmc. "My problem is that our next visit will be Christmas and my now 3-month-old son will be crawling by then. I don't even want him off my lap, let alone crawling on her filthy floor. How can I tell her to either clean up or she will have to visit my son at my mother's house?"