So what can we learn, overall, about dealing with our in-laws? Perhaps there are really just three basic guidelines, according to iVillagers' common wisdom: Set boundaries within which you can function with your in-laws. Be the kinder and more generous one, despite what others do; bad behavior on your part doesn't so much let you "get even" with your in-laws as make you a lesser person. And, finally, make sure you know where your husband stands, and that he's willing to stand with you as a teammate.
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