Learning how to use H.E.L.P

Toddler Whispering Workshop -- Lesson 1


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Lesson One Exercise: Practice H.E.L.P everyday

I'll admit, being a H.E.L.P.ing parent is not easy -- to balance loving and limit setting, to know when to jump in and when to hold back, to dole out just the right amount of praise and to know how to discipline appropriately. It will take some time and practice for you to feel comfortable with this method -- and be effective. One of the trickiest aspects of using H.E.L.P. is figuring out how and when to set limits. Some parents veer to one extreme or the other -- they are either too controlling or too lax about limits. Parents who lean toward the authoritarian end of the continuum have no trouble setting limits or levying punishment for misdeeds, but they tend not to give their children much leeway. As a result, these children may have difficulty trusting their own instincts and therefore need constant approval from their parents. They also may have trouble trying new things or playing with other children. Parents who are too lax, on the other hand, may fear that too much interference will crush their children's natural inclinations. But the lack of structure could have a negative effect on their children, resulting in erratic eating habits, sleep problems or behavioral difficulties.

This week, keep H.E.L.P. in the back of your mind throughout the day so you get used to the idea and start thinking of how it may change the way you parent. Bring it to mind especially if you find yourself in a sticky situation. Of course, with a toddler that could happen several times a day! Think of each letter and ask yourself ...

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