Photo Credit: Gloria Baker Feinstein
Today we're dishing with one of my favorite body image bloggers, Kate Fridkis, creator of Eat The Damn Cake. Kate just teamed up with photographer Gloria Baker Feinstein to create the Women Eating Cake Project, a gallery of amazing photos of women doing just that -- while talking about why they love cake, diets be damned.
So how did the Women Eating Cake Project come about?
I named my blog Eat The Damn Cake and started talking about my relationship with my body to get other women to talk, too. Gloria saw the blog and asked if she could take pictures for it and when she started shooting women eating cake, she also started gathering their quotes about it. The Women Eating Cake Project was born. It's a celebration. It's defiant and silly. Because women shouldn't have to think about how they look all the time. We should just be able to eat the damn cake.
Why cake, in particular?
Cake is notoriously rich. No one can pretend it's healthy, but it is celebratory!
Why do you think women feel the need to apologize or insult themselves whenever they eat dessert?
Historically, women have been defined as "selfless." We aren't supposed to feed ourselves cake, we're supposed to bake the cake and feed it to other people.
There's been a lot of talk lately about Documented Instances of Public Eating or DIPEs -- where skinny actresses make sure to eat a meatball sub during an interview and talk about how they love it. What's your take on that trend?
When I read a DIPE, it makes me feel like there's something wrong with me. Because for most women, it doesn't work this way. This is why it's so important that all women be honest about their relationships between food and beauty. It's important for women to have realistic expectations. It would also be amazing if "thin" wasn't such a requirement for "beautiful."
My reaction to a DIPE is exhaustion. First they're telling me to be skinny-perfect, and now I have to achieve that on a diet of meatball subs?
Exactly. But I can't help thinking there's a positive aspect to this trend, too. At least eating is cool! I still know women who don't like to be seen eating because we've been trained to think it's unfeminine.
And I'm not advocating for unhealthiness here. I don't think anyone should eat cake or meatball subs all day, every day. But if you want to eat cake for breakfast once in awhile, just go for it. You're beautiful anyway.