Long-Distance Love: Keep Things Spicy When You're Apart

When You're Together

  • Plan some sex sessions.

    When you're first reunited, any sex feels like good sex because you've both been starved of sex for so long. But once you've taken the edge off, try new things in bed. It's true that absence makes the genitals grow fonder. But if every single time you're together, the sex remains the same, you'll eventually get to the same Yawnsville place as couples who are with each other constantly.

    When I say plan a sex session, I don't just mean circle a "sex night" on the calendar. It's got to be done with a healthy helping of anticipation, or it will work against you. Simply saying, "We've got to have sex tonight" is about as sexy as saying, "Tonight we're going to clean out the closet." But if tonight is the night you're going to try doing something naughty, like tying each other up or anal sex, suddenly it's exciting. Planning something new and naughty is erotic. Adding sex to your "to do" list isn't.

  • Give him one new "treat" every time he comes home.

    You can start with some testicle play: Try cradling both of his testacles in one hand. Next, circle the flat palm of the other hand over the surface. Another way to do it is by placing your hand palm up under his testicles, then using the thumb and index finger of your other hand to make a fairly tight ring at the top of the scrotum. They should rest in your palm, neatly together. (Picture a bag of marbles with a drawstring pulled tight at the top; that's how it would look.) A gentle downward tug feels exquisite for guys, and it also smoothes out the crinkly skin, making his testicles nice and smooth to stroke. Alternate the stroking with fondling and massaging.

  • There's really no such thing as bad timing in sex.

    He's arrived! But so has your period. What now? Here are a few sex positions for that time of the month... even for "fat days."

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