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14 Love Lessons We Can Learn From Twilight

Whether you're an Edward or a Jacob fan, there are lots of love and lust lessons we can learn from Twilight. (15 Photos)

Mina Hochberg on Nov 8, 2012 at 1:08PM

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14 Love Lessons We Can Learn From Twilight

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Get That Man Off a Pedestal

Bella's love for Edward borders on worship. When she can't be with him, she places herself in life-threatening situations, just so he will come to her rescue. That's not too healthy.

While we love our guys -- we also love ourselves and would never repeatedly put their value above our own. "If there is a huge power imbalance between the couple, the relationship is going to be very unhealthy," says Deacon. "Love works best if both halves of the couple have a healthy sense of their own value." If you or your guy are overly obsessed with one another, take a breath and reexamine the relationship. It's unhealthy -- and possibly dangerous -- to place so much of your own self-worth in the hand's of someone else. If your man's on a pedestal -- get him off and put yourself up there.