3 Love Lessons You Can Only Learn from Bad Breakups

Michael agreed, but he added, "What will you have when I finally kick, Noreen? Do you want to be 50-years-old and walk out of the cemetery, saying, "Now what am I going to do?"

He was right. It's been over a year since our breakup. Now that he doesn't have to put up a brave front for me Michael spends intense quality time with his children. Me -- I feel like I'm readying myself, that I'm about to meet someone with whom I can build a family.

The cliche that love isn't always enough is all too true. It took more strength to leave Michael than to hang on. But it was the right decision for both of us.

You Can Stop Blaming Him for Not Being Who You Wanted

Goddess Lydia, 40, Internet Radio DJ
The father of my child succeeded at splintering my heart. We were together six years. I wanted to get married. He didn't. Until he met another woman.

When he split I was devastated. Even though both of us were miserable in the relationship I would never have left. I'm a very loyal person.

It took me a few years to work through the anger and grief and to realize that the breakup was actually a gift. My ex was incapable of emotion, so I had taken on his feelings in addition to mine. The more I felt, the more he retreated emotionally. Consequently we loved each other to the worst of our abilities. The damage this caused wasn't just to me, but to him. Neither of us could make the other happy. The only way he could bring himself to leave this arid standoff was to be unfaithful.

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