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Matt Bomer wasn't looking to make any kind of grand, magazine-cover statement when he publicly came out in February. He merely thanked his partner, publicist Simon Halls, and their three children, while accepting an award.
"I never really endeavored to hide anything," Bomer, 34, told E! News last weekend while promoting his new movie, Magic Mike. "But there were times I chose not to relegate my history to the back page of a magazine, which to me is sort of akin to putting your biography on a bathroom wall."
The White Collar actor is surprised by how his coming out has affected others in such a personal way.
"I had somebody from the military approach me a few weeks ago just saying how this helps people, affects people," Bomer said. "It brought me to tears."
But Bomer believes what really needs to happen is for people to stop labeling actors, period.
"What we really have to do is stop the adjective before the job title -- whether it's 'black actor,' a 'gay actor' or 'anything actor,'" Bomer said. "Everybody thinks that equality comes from identifying people, and that's not where equality comes from. Equality comes from treating everybody the same regardless of who they are. I hope the media and the press catches on to that because it's time to move out of 1992."
As for his new role as a veteran stripper in Steven Soderbergh's new drama Magic Mike, Bomer was unsure if he was the right person for the job at first -- but not because he is gay.
"When they called me, I thought, 'Do they have the wrong number? Did they mean to call the guy from Vampire Diaries?'" Bomer said, laughing. "And at the time I was really skinny so I think there may have been a five-minute window from when I hung up the phone to when I went to the gym."
After gaining 15 pounds for the role of a successful Florida stripper, Bomer had to rely on star Channing Tatum, whose time as a male inspired the film, for guidance.
"Channing told me, 'You have to use the stretcher and just get up on this girl and grind your junk in her face,'" Bomer recalled about one particular routine when he has to dance on top of a pretend patient from the audience.
"But this girl was not going to just sit there and be ground upon," Bomer said. "She started licking me in all kinds of special places and we just kept going…It was one of those situations where you were in an environment where moral parameters are not the same as they are if you're doing a political drama. You just sort of have to say yes to everything and embrace it."