How to Give Yourself a Makeover and Boost Self-Esteem after the Divorce

 

When you're going through a divorce, your self-esteem can be at an all-time low. Stress and strong emotions can cause you to eat and sleep poorly, unintentionally lose or gain weight, and generally lack the energy and motivation to pay attention to personal grooming. "I feel terrible, so I might as well look terrible," you think. Your ex isn't around to complain about how you look in that red sweatsuit, and your kid is going to love you whether you wash your hair today, so what's the big deal?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with spending a lazy Saturday in your PJs from time to time, and there's no earthly reason why a woman should have to wear makeup or spend an hour styling her hair to go grocery shopping. The problem arises when chronic self-neglect starts to cost you -- everything from a promotion at work to the respect of friends and colleagues to the possibility of a new relationship.

Whether it's human nature or societal conditioning, people -- and this includes you -- will judge you on your appearance. You can boost your self-esteem by taking pride in rather than being ashamed of how you look. I'm not suggesting that you become obsessed with your looks, spending hours a day and large sums of money to look your "absolute best." You shouldn't try to look like a model unless you are one. (And they generally have to be bulimic or work out four hours every day of their lives to look like that. Who needs that grief?) Once you've acquired "the basics" -- flattering hairstyle, clothes, and a positive body image to go with them -- an attractive appearance takes relatively little effort.

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