Making Allowance Work
My son is 14 years old and his chores involve keeping his room clean and organized, feeding pets and helping with kitchen cleanup. Please give me guidelines on how to make allowance "work" as well as an idea of what an appropriate allowance is for a child of this age.Question:
The allowance amount you give your son is really up to you. But if resources permit, why not pay him an amount based on the time it takes for him to do these chores? Whether you pay him two dollars or fifty cents per hour, you introduce the concept of working for a living. But, remember, with responsibility comes freedom and the right to decide how he will spend his own money.
Take this opportunity to teach your son consistency and accountability to others in the performance of his family "job." A critical key to the success of such an arrangement is to communicate the clear expectation that while your child is paid for his work, he cannot independently decide to forego his chores in lieu of "no allowance" at whim! Like any job, he needs to work out any exceptions with you. Other than special arrangements for final exam schedules, or some equally important stressor, it is important that your teenager be expected to perform his job consistently. This encourages him to develop healthy work habits that engender self-respect and consideration for those relying upon him.
Another alternative for pay base may include a breakdown by duties. There may be responsibilities that you simply expect him to do without pay because they are mostly of benefit to him, such as cleaning his room. But vacuuming the entire house may be paid at a rate either based on time, or simply by a flat rate. It might even prove interesting to have a discussion with him about these alternatives and ask him for his input on what he thinks is fair.
Some parents choose to give their teenagers allowances that include responsibility for large areas of money management (such as a full wardrobe expense account), in the interest of teaching them how to handle money. This depends on your level of comfort, as well as your son's readiness for this kind of responsibility.
My husband and I came up with a dollar amount that my teenagers felt was fair. We also outlined the responsibilities that constituted their "job." We continued to pay for their usual expenses: They were free to use the money for anything they wanted. This arrangement encouraged them to consider the option to save for a special item of clothing, a new video, a first car or a spending account for college.
Regardless of how you decide to do it, consistent guidelines for an allowance in exchange for specified chores does give your son a sense of greater family participation. It is not only a learning opportunity, but a source of great pride for your child when he graduates to the role of a family contributor!Answer: