Men want to make us happy. That's the truth according to dating consultant Renee Piane of Lovemechanics.com. The author of Love Mechanics: The Power Tools to Build Successful Relationships says their occasional inability to accomplish this goal stems from our inability to say what we need in an, ahem, constructive manner. Piane adds, "Men are simple creatures. Unlike us, they weren't raised analyzing every nuance of relationships." They honestly have no idea what we want. This leaves them shadowboxing blindly, praying they'll accidentally hit on what we need and hoping that they won't get in too much trouble when they fail to deliver.
But not all guys are completely clueless at every turn. Chances are, your man is smoother in one or more of the following areas, but in an effort to cover all the bases
- Eating habits
- Living space
- Ability to make plans
- Attention span and memory for "the little things"
- Moves in the bedroom
1. Improve his wardrobe
A man who has no fashion sense is aware of his flaw and doesn't need you to point it out to him in condescending fashion ("You're gonna go out of the house in that?"). Piane says, "If you nag, he'll hear his mother's voice and turn off." The battle plan is SSS: stroke, suggest, stroke. Meaning compliment him, tell him what you want, compliment him again. Say, "Honey, you're so attractive. You've got a great haircut and great shoulders but you're not showing yourself off to the best advantage. How would you feel if we went shopping to find a few new flattering outfits? That way when we go out with our friends next weekend, you'll look like a million bucks."