2. Improve his eating habits
He's the king of junk food, the only thing in his frig is ketchup and a bottle of water. Piane says, "You can't really change his inbred habits, but you can show him a better way to live." Next time you're visiting, say, "You have nothing in the house. Why don't we go to the supermarket and stock up?" Buy healthy foods that are easy to prepare, like prepackaged salad, and make a healthy meal when you get back to his place. (Men love to be fed, Piane points out.) Hopefully he will start learning by example.
3. Improve his living space
When you walk into his amazingly messy hovel, don't attack him for what you see -- and don't see. Don't make a judgment. Remember SSS. Go, "Sweetheart, what a great couch. It would look awesome to match it with this lamp I saw at Ikea." Piane says, "I once dated a guy who had a great job, drove a Lexus, the whole bit. His kitchen sink was full of dirty dishes and bugs. I said, "You're such a together guy, I expected your place to be like the rest of you. I have a great maid who can take care of this for $45." The next time Piane visited, the place was spotless. His sheets make you itchy? When he stays at your place, say, "Oh, I love these sheets. They' re so soft." He'll probably go out and buy the same sheets for his bed. Remember that he aims to please if only he'd know how.