4. Improve his ability to make plans
He's constantly putting it on you to decide the evening's agenda when your deepest wish is for him to come up with a great plan. Instead of nagging, try, "Honey, it makes me happy that you want me to make plans, but what really turns me on is when you call and say you've thought of something great for us to do." Piane advises, "Put it in terms of feelings: 'I love when you pick the place because you always pick a great one.'"
5. Improve his attention span and memory for "the little things"
It's so great when a man remembers little things about you, like your preference for Diet Coke over Diet Pepsi. If you're like most of us though, you're lucky when your guy remembers that if you eat shellfish you'll wind up in the hospital. Piane says, "He is who he is. He doesn't give love the way you do. Show him what you need. Every time he does remember some little thing about you, shower him with appreciation. ('When we were out with Barbara and Steve last night and you said, "Diane loves the cheesecake at this restaurant, it made me feel so special."') In this way you'll be programming him to please you because he knows he'll be rewarded."