You are now divorced so now what do you do? You start over. The lifestyle that you are accustomed to is now over and it is time for you to make new decisions about how you will carry on with your life. Everything is affected by the divorce, including the children's birthdays, or holidays. All of these things must now be restructured for you as a single parent. Some of these changes may not go the way that you want them to go, but if you want your children to grow in a healthy environment, you must make some sacrifices.
Eventually, you will want to separate yourself from what you used to have and move on to a new life. This is very healthy for everyone. Divorce means starting over. It doesn't have to be a grim ending to your life.
Many people who are new to divorce make the mistake of jumping into a new relationship before the ink is even dry on the divorce papers. This is a mistake. Everyone in a divorce situation needs some time to settle before they begin a new intimate relationship. Each individual needs to take care of some specific needs before they jump into something they will regret.
When you think about dating again, remember that it is possible to be a great parent even though you will have a life that is outside a married one. Parents are not being selfish if they want to spend some time with another person outside the family. Remember, if the child see that you are unhappy because you are alone, then the child will in turn become unhappy. The child may not know what is troubling you, but they will sense that you are unhappy.