When is it Time to Date?
It is very difficult to determine when it is time to begin dating again. Most people just feel that it is time. The time not to date is immediately following the divorce. A person may be dating for the wrong reasons. It is possible that dating will help you get over your ex-spouse. Dating is not so much different than when you were younger, but the places that you meet people may change. It may be a time to join some new organizations.
Telling the Children you are Dating
Grown-ups have friends also. It is important that you tell your children that you have friends that are not only the same sex as you but also the opposite sex as you. If you have younger children you may want to explain it to them in terms of friends, but if you have older children you may want to explain it to them more as a need for a relationship. Older children will generally understand that you need something more.
It is not expected that the children will be too thrilled about your wanting to date. Most children have the hopes that their parents will eventually get back together. They may look at dating as you trying to get back at Mom or Daddy. Eventually they will come to grips with the fact that you need to begin dating and they will most likely accept it.