Managing Your Single Life With Children


When is it the best time to introduce your relationship partner to your children? It is probably a good time when you know that the relationship is a steady one. Normally for the first couple of dates, it might be a good idea to meet the person out somewhere.

If the relationship begins to get serious, you may want this significant other to spend some time with your children so that your children can get to know him/her. This is important because you may want to see how this person interacts with your children, because if this person is not interacting well with them you may want to reconsider the relationship.

If he/she handles meeting your child/children well, then it may be all right for this person to be a part of your child's/children's life. It is also important to notify your children that the relationship with this person may not work out in the future. Children can get very attached to a father figure, for example. If this happens and you don't talk to your child about the fact that the relationship may not work out, the child may go through what he/she went through in the divorce.

Don't worry if your child does not like this person, and persists on going against the wishes of your new partner. This is quite normal. Children usually resent the fact that they can't see you happy with your ex-spouse again. Remember that children will do as much as they can to try and get their parents back together. So keep talking to your child.

Living Arrangements

Your new partner may ask you to move in with them. If your children don't like the idea then you should really think hard about not doing it. Remember that they are still becoming accustomed to being without their other parent. Your children need to be in an environment that is predictable, and moving them into someone else's house may be a wrong move.

If you are looking at it from a legal standpoint, the courts may be for your moving into your new partners home if the relationship has gone to such a level that you are engaged. But if the relationship is a new one, then the court may look at you poorly in your custody battle. Whatever the case, moving the children into someone else's house is a very difficult task to ask of your children. The parent must think very hard and talk to their children before making any move.

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