Marriage and Money: Expert Advice

Problem: Getting Him to Get a Raise

"My husband makes a decent salary. However, he is not being paid fair market value. He could easily go to a headhunter and find a job for 30 percent more than what he earns now. He likes where he is and enjoys the work. It's the perfect job for him, except that the top boss is beyond miserly and he's the guy who doles out the raises, bonuses, etc. I think my husband is being taken advantage of and let's face it, we could use the additional income he could be making. Should I express my views to him or would I be stepping over the line? " --cl-annejennifer

Solution:
Absolutely. Express your views to your husband. If you don't it will fester and create tension. However, there's a right way and a wrong way to approach the subject.

Tell him you're having a problem that's bothering you so that he gets involved in trying to help you. You can say, "I'm depressed, because we need more money to live and I don't think you're being fairly treated by your employer -- even though I truly understand you like working there," might be a way to bring it up. Be sure to communicate to him that you understand how much he loves his job.

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