In her contraversial book, The Surrendered Wife, Laura Doyle advises women to give up control in their marriages to revive intimacy. Is this a flash back to the 1950s or a new way of looking at the modern marriage? Take a look at our guide to surrendering, then, try it for yourself, with Laura's 5 Ways to Surrender.
What it is:
- Relinquishing inappropriate control over your husband by respecting your husband's intelligence (e.g. an adult can pick out his own clothing in the morning)
- Receiving gifts from your husband graciously and expressing gratitude to him -- say "thank you" to compliments; let him know he is valued
- Expressing what you want without demanding your husband's compliance -- express your desires and see how your mate tries to fulfill them
- Trusting your husband with household finances -- appeal to his desire to take care of you while you relinquish stress over money and bills
- Focusing on your own self-care and fulfillment -- patience and compassion for your husband come from your own rest, relaxation and support system
What it's not:
- Rejecting feminism or returning to the 1950s housewife ideal
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- Becoming subservient
- Observing rigid gender roles
- Losing your identity as an intelligent individual within the home or without
- Submitting to emotional or physical abuse, or persevering in a chronically unfaithful relationship
- Losing dignity or social independence
Would you consider surrendering? Take a look at these 5 Ways to Surrender
Read more about Laura Doyle.
Not interested in surrendering, but looking for a change in your relationship?
Check out guest expert Kathy Dawson's Practical Solutions for Your Marriage, then try it for yourself with her 5 New Ways to Make it Work
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