I wish that hospital staffs would listen to the patients. Women in labor know exactly what's going on, especially the second time around. The experience for me was maddening, scary and beautiful all at the same time.
Lamaze Childbirth Educator Response
Your birth was a tough one on many levels. It's very difficult when the messages from the inside (you feel an urge to push) don't match the messages from the outside (you're told you're at three centimeters).
A quickly progressing labor can be very difficult. For one thing, a lot of work is compressed into a short period of time. Things move so quickly that they're often blurry, and there's not time to make tactical or emotional adjustments.
I'm glad that in hindsight you're happy you gave birth without an epidural. Sometimes women who don't have all the physical sensations of birth don't experience the sense of power and strength you describe in that final stage. Many women get hypersensitive during that final stage -- totally tuned in to every sensation. What an amazing thing it is to feel your baby slip out of you and into waiting arms.
At a recent midwifery conference, buttons were handed out that say "Listen to Women." Maybe we should all be wearing them!
For more birth stories, please read:
- Birth Stories: What They Tell Us
- "I Gave Birth Standing Up"
- "I Used a Variety of Comfort Measures"
- "I'm Happy I Had an Epidural"
- "I Gave Birth at Home"
- "I Loved My Natural Childbirth, but Pushing Was Painful"
- "I Had Preeclampsia, and My Baby Was Premature"
- "I Gave Birth to Twins Naturally"
- "I Had an Emergency Cesarean"
- "I Regret Being Induced"
- A Day You'll Never Forget