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Men are out to prove that they, too, can suffer for beauty

Liposuction and gluteal sculpting, underwear with padding in the derriere, articles in “health magazines” promoting jeans with pocket flaps, spouses making snide remarks and giving plastic surgery as birthday gifts…Just another day in a woman’s struggle with unattainable photo-shop beauty, right? Wrong. These stories are all about men.

An article from The New York Times points out that some men seem to be out to prove that they are willing to suffer for beauty, just like their female counterparts. Why should women be the only ones who put our lives on the line to have fat sucked out of and pumped into our asses? Why should women be the only ones who are unrecognizable when the pad and lifts come off? I’ve even heard women suggest that this is a step toward equality.

If that’s true, then stop the equality train because I want to get off. This isn’t actually hilarious. The idea that there is only one body that is beautiful, and that it’s worth expensive creams, uncomfortable undergarments and surgery to attain is deeply problematic -- and it’s no less problematic when it’s men chasing the impossible beauty idea instead of women.

In many ways I think that the rise of metrosexuality -- including men becoming secure enough in their masculinity to be able to appreciate other men without feeling the need to gay bash is a good thing, but it can also lead down a bad road. Jeff Vickers says that one of the reasons he got liposuction and gluteal sculpting was because the guys at work teased him for having a flat butt. In case you’re wondering, he does not work at Abercrombie and Fitch -- he is a contractor who owns a construction company. What the hell is going on at his construction sites that his ass is a topic of conversation?

I’m not interested in telling anyone what they can do with their bodies, but I’d like to make a suggestion for your consideration:

Do not encourage this. When it comes to body image and the pressure to look like a photo-shopped picture of ourselves, we women are in a deep dark hole. I don’t think that pulling men into the whole with us is the kind of equality we are looking for.

Men need to stop and go back. Do not come over to our world -- a world where shoes permanently damage your legs and undergarments make you break a sweat trying to get them on. Just say no -- say no for you and say no for women. Walk, run, or roll in the opposite direction.

How about we all expand our image of beauty instead of our painful padded underwear collections?

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