Alleviating Mood Swings
"My daughter, who has just started middle school, has been extremely moody for the last four months and it's driving me crazy! The mood swings can be pretty bad, but I've had several talks with my daughter and told her that I understand that she can't necessarily control the mood swings -- raging hormones and all -- but she can control what comes out of her mouth. A bad mood is one thing but does not give her the right to talk back to her dad and me, or to be nasty to her little brother. So I told my daughter that if she feels like she can't be civil, she needs to go up to her room and chill out. I've even found that sometimes what she really wants is some 'Mom time.' When that happens, we'll go out and grab an ice cream or walk around the mall. This gives us a chance to talk without interruption from her little brother and really helps us connect."
~ Parent Soup member A2Zkiddos
Some Coping Mechanisms
"The best thing I do with my kids is to take very little of their behavior personally. That doesn't mean I tolerate backtalk or spitefulness, just that I don't allow my feelings to be hurt by raging hormones. Everyone has bad days, pre-teens especially, and as long as the child knows you're available, there is no need to press for details. So many things that bother our children blow over in a day or two anyway. An analogy I heard about teens and pre-teens really makes sense: Young children are like dogs: pet me, love me, take me for a walk. Teens are like cats: Don't pet me unless I want you to. Take a walk with you? Are you nuts? Put me down! Feed me!"
~ Parent Soup member NotaDumBld