In the wake of the unprecedented mass shooting on a Texas Army base that left 13 people dead and more than 30 people wounded on Thursday, questions are being raised about the psychological strain on the families who have born the brunt of the long wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. And while authorities are still sorting out the terrible details of what happened and why, iVillage members, both civilians and those in the military, are reaching out with messages of support. Here are some of their thoughts. (If you'd like to add your comments and messages of support, you can join the discussion here.)
"This affects more than just those at Fort Hood, but all military, as we are one family. We fight as one; we grieve as one." —cl-momrisner
"During this whole deployment there have been many close calls... many for my husband and his unit. And for the terror to be where they call 'home' just makes it harder to deal. Can we be safe anywhere ever again?" —jennwilmot
"Let's not focus on the shooter, but instead we should be focusing on the loss that these families were given today. The futures crushed. The dreams no more. And careers over. Remember the innocent lives (not those that harassed [the shooter] or the shooter) and try to figure out what we can do to help the soldiers not get harassed, and get the mental help that they truly need. That's what we need to do." —hubbswifey
"I'm just stunned; I don't even know what to say. I've heard back from most everyone that I know but not everybody. [Dear husband] got a call from his squad leader to make sure he was okay. It's just devastating. That town did not need another shooting like this, especially one on post." — pauliesgirl77
"I am outraged! I am a teacher and watched our children practice for our Veteran's Day assembly today. Cried and cried! I can't understand how another soldier could do this. Then, like [another] military wife said, I wish his name was Smith." —lexiesch
"I think we're going to learn what the shooter's motives were, and maybe those motives have nothing to do with his lineage or religion." —mombitsy
"I applaud the fast actions of our military and what they did to bring that situation under control. It is comforting to know that they can think that quick and their training is that good. I know my husband is a combat lifesaver. I believe most, if not all, are in some respect." —jennwilmot
"My son called his friend. He answered the phone, 'I'm fine, I'm alive.' He's on lockdown. He didn't know any more than what we know. I worry about him almost as much as I worry about my own kids." —ohearto
Military families have always been a big part of the iVillage community. If you'd like to send a message of support to them, visit the Military Wives message board.
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