Remember your first love? How it was all you thought about, how you thought that it would last forever? Learning the ropes of relationships is a big deal. Combine that with teen hormones, and it's easy to see why teen relationships can become so consuming. So what do you do when you see your teen involved in a relationship that is becoming too intense? A mom on Parent Soup asked this question recently, describing how her daughter's boyfriend was becoming possessive and jealous, and how she didn't know how to handle the situation. Here are the wise words she received in response from parents across the country who've been there. May they help you guide your teen along the path to a healthy relationship.
"What I have been doing is pointing it out to my daughter when her boyfriend is acting like a jerk. When he freaks out about her looking at someone, I ask her if she wants to have to deal with him freaking out over stuff like that for the rest of her life. When he tells her what to wear, I say, ' I'm glad I don't have anyone bossing me around like that.' She seems to be getting irritated with the whole thing, so maybe she'll break up with him. But from prior experience with this child, if I forbid her, she sneaks behind my back as much to get her way as to see if she can get away with it."
"Please don't forbid them to see each other, by doing so it may push them further away. Suggest a cooling off time or try bringing the boyfriend into more of the family activities. By bringing him in closer you can keep your eye on your daughter better and possibly come to a mutual understanding with the boyfriend."