After beginning a dialogue with your mother about subjects like self-image, romance and aging, I hope that you're starting see a change in the way that you communicate. Now you can use the methods you've learned in this workshop to talk to your mother about another important issue: spirituality. When I speak of spirituality and spiritual beliefs, I mean the entire range of experiences beyond the tangible and explainable. These include but are not limited to religion and religious beliefs. Miracles, the power of love and visions, intuition, telepathic and psychic experiences, and our connection to animals and nature are also ways of connecting to the spirit.
We all receive spiritual beliefs from our parents. Some of us stick with them throughout our entire life. Others of us are raised with one set of spiritual principles, only to embrace new ones upon reaching adulthood. Like politics, money, sex and private matters, talking about our spiritual beliefs with anyone has tremendous emotional powers, and particularly so with our mothers. We want her to approve of our choices. We want her to understand and agree with us. For some women, that is easy. Sharing prayers, reading scripture and singing favorite hymns together are part of the sweetness of life. For others, discussing religion with their mother is much harder.
So why talk with your mother if you already share the same beliefs or it's going to be disastrous? If you share similar spiritual views, you'll reinforce and enrich what you already believe by asking the questions at the end of this step. If you've never talked with your mother about spirituality, you will take your relationship to a deeper and more meaningful level, and you'll learn things about her that you didn't know. Whether you agree or differ in your beliefs, I recommend discussing spiritual beliefs and issues because someday you may need to make some difficult choices, and you'll be clear about what to do. Spiritual beliefs are at the root of every person's choices. Your mother's choices influence not just her life but also your own.