Mothers and Daughters

Step 5: Talk to Your Mother about Spirituality

What are your spiritual beliefs?

Before you talk with your mother, it's important to know what your own spiritual beliefs are. What does spirituality mean to you? How do you envision God? What do you think happens after death? Your clarity will guide you in your discussion, as well as provide your mother with a framework in which to express herself. It may even inspire her to go deeper with her own understanding of her beliefs. To prepare, try completing these sentences in your journal:

  • The best way to describe my spiritual beliefs is ...
  • The best way I can describe God is ...
  • I feel most connected to a higher power when ...
  • What I think happens after death is ...
  • When I am unable to make sense of tragedy or loss, I turn to ...
  • One of the most mystical or spiritual experiences I've had is ...

Now that you've written your thoughts down, read them out loud to yourself. You want to be really comfortable with your answers and able to articulate yourself clearly. The more at ease you are in expressing yourself, the more opportunity there is for spontaneous, open and ongoing dialogue with your mother.

Broaden your horizons and explore your mind-set

If you and your mother share the same spiritual path, you may attend the same church or temple, exchange Bible or Torah passages or celebrate holidays in the same manner. But you have the chance to broaden your horizons. Consider whether there are new questions you could be asking. Are there new books you could be sharing, new lectures you could be going to with your mother, or volunteer activities the two of you could do together? There are many new and exciting ways to explore your spirituality, as well as revisiting the basics together.

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