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In her book Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them and Keep Them Coming, Lou Paget offers her best man-melting oral sex secrets. But we must warn you: Her advice may cause your guy to act strangely. He may do the dishes unprompted. He may pick up your dry cleaning. You might even catch him staring at you all googly-eyed while you're minding your own business watching TV. Think you can handle that? If so, put your vixen hat on and start taking naughty notes.
There are four main components that combine to create great oral sex. Like dancing, sometimes you put all the steps together in one move and other times you slow down the pace, but more than likely you are constantly varying your moves to the beat and according to how you feel at the moment.
It won't take long to discover that the secret to giving great oral sex is to find your "rhythm," and that rhythm, as in dancing, can and will change with each partner, depending on his specific likes and dislikes. What will ensure your success with every encounter is to remember the four different motions you use whenever performing oral sex.
- Seal your hand to your mouth in the ring shape. Or, if you want just use your mouth, but it will be more tiring.
- Move your mouth up and down his shaft to increase length of the stimulation area for him. Remember to keep your teeth covered!
- Circle your tongue in a constant, back-and-forth motion across the frenulum area, which is the V-shaped notch at the back of the head of the penis. This allows him to feel the more textured tastebud surface throughout the experience.
- Stimulate another part of his body with your free hand, such as the nipples, inner thighs, perineal area or anus, in order to broaden the area of sensual pleasure.
As long as you don't forget these four movements, your oral sex experiences are always going to be pleasurable for both of you. And though I've said this before, I think it bears repeating once again. The joy you derive out of pleasing him is worth its weight in gold '- of that there is no doubt. But knowing you alone possess the ability to deliver it is likely to do more to reflect your power as a woman than anything you can even imagine.
On the subject of swallowing, or allowing him to come in your mouth: your mouth, your choice. But, I will say that "well-balanced nice-guy men" have said they like it because it makes them feel one of the most masculine parts of them has been accepted. Should you choose to do so, you can heighten the sensation he feels when ejaculating, either in or not in your mouth, by pulsing your now still hands wrapped around his shaft in time with the ejaculations.
Excerpt taken from Orgasms by Lou Paget. Copyright © 2004 by Lou Paget. Excerpted by permission of Broadway Books, a division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.