My daughter is very shy around adults

My oldest daughter turned 3 in June. She can already sing her ABC's perfectly and counts to 12. She is already getting a lot of socialization with other kids her age. My question is, is it necessary for me to put her in preschool? I am a stay-home mom, (2 parent family) and I try to keep her challenged. Another question is she is very shy around adults but very comfortable with children under the age of about 10, how do I make her feel more comfortable when we do send her to preschool and there is an adult there and I'm not?


It sounds as if you are doing a fine job on your own with your daughter. Pre-school is not a necessity. It's mainly important to help socialize children and to help them adjust to the routine of a school day. Whenever you place your child in school, she will be able to accomplish these tasks. Meanwhile, it is lovely for her to have time with you.

Don't worry about your daughter's reaction to adults; it's not uncommon for young children to be reticent around grown-ups. Her first teacher will more than likely be able to assist in helping her learn to trust other adults. Generally, school is so enjoyable that kids love it - and their teachers, too! Meanwhile, enjoy your daughter until the time comes that you WANT to send her to school.

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