No Sex Drive While Trying to Conceive

My partner and I have been trying to conceive. These very scheduled sexual encounters for the purpose of conceiving, rather than to fulfill any sexual desire, has killed our sex drive. What can we do to bring back the passion?


Gayle Peterson

Gayle Peterson, PhD, is a family therapist specializing in prenatal and family development. She is a clinical member of the Association... Read more

The intrusion of "sex on demand" has challenged the intimacy in your relationship.

You have been able to make time to enjoy sex before and you can do it again. Take the time now to rekindle the fire. Schedule a weekly date. Spend time together and refocus your attention on each other, going out to dinner, sharing a bath or going on an afternoon hike.

Consider ways to redirect your attention to sex. Rediscover your bodies and renew your sensuality. Reconnect to your sensuality with warm bodies bathed in water and candlelight, music, massages and private time together.

Spending this time, refocued on your relationship, and not conception, will help bring back the passion you desire.

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