I have been targeted by every single video-dating and matchmaking service in existence. Scarcely a day goes by when I don't receive a letter or email asking me to join this service or that, and each promises to hook me up with at least a dozen soulmates -- all of whom I'm guaranteed I would never meet otherwise.
Despite the prevalence of relationship services these days, a hidden shame persists about using a service of any kind, online or off, to locate your future love. Some people remain embarrassed to get a little help when it counts, and this inexplicable mortification probably has caused several people to miss out on quality matching opportunities.
The science of romance
Computers are pretty reliable. If you ask one to tote up your personal information, your likes and dislikes, and then compare it side-by-side with information shared by others, you can be fairly certain that you won't end up with a group of completely incompatible results. Only human error or human misrepresentation can throw gum into the works. So why are people so ashamed to look for a little help when they want to find the person of their dreams -- a job whose gravity should make anyone grateful for any help they can get?
The answer is mired in the old misconception that computers detract from basic human interaction. But this couldn't be farther from the truth.
Some don't need online dating to find their match, but many others don't have the time or the inclination to roam the streets of their hometown, shamefacedly tossing out bad pickup lines and lurking in singles bars waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right to come along. Sometimes getting a little help grants you access to people or possibilities that you might not have had the opportunity to consider.
We're in the digital age. In ten years we'll use hand-held computers to organize our daily lives and interface with the PC at home, setting up mood lighting and arranging romantic music to prepare for the Big Date. All you'll have to do when you get home is light the candles...unless those get digitized too.
Get yourself online and create a free member profile. Be honest and straightforward about who you are and what you're looking for, and you may be surprised by the amount of compatibility you have with the matches you receive. Online dating is safe, secure, fun, affordable and, best of all, a lot like window shopping -- you have a much broader opportunity to get to know someone before you take the plunge.