No Time for Losers: 10 Questions to Ask to Avoid the Setup from Hell

Sometimes a friend can be so into playing cupid that she forgets your needs. Be sure to ask the following questions to avoid getting paired with a man that's just downright "really?!" (11 Photos)

Ronnie Koenig on Apr 16, 2012 at 5:51PM

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No Time for Losers: 10 Questions to Ask to Avoid the Setup from Hell

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Would You Date Him?

When you’re single, one of the most reliable ways to meet men is through your friends. After all, they know your likes and dislikes and let’s face it, some assistance in the potential mate-finding department is sometimes necessary.

“I think that single people need to be open to all avenues. The universe might be working through your friend to bring you your soul mate,” says Marla Martenson, matchmaker ( and author of Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate is Waiting.

You and your friends are compatible because presumably you share some of the same values and tastes. Even if this guy isn’t the matchmaker’s cup of tea, ask her if she would date him and you’ll get an honest assessment of his character.

Think of it like this -- if you received a hideous dress as a present would you return it or give it to your best girlfriend? The same goes for dating. Make sure your friend isn’t giving you someone she’d toss in the as-is/final markdown bin.

“Get your friend’s opinion, but ultimately it’s your opinion that matters most,” says Alpert.

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