Xmas break. Your college kids come back, sometimes with a full laundry bag, sometimes with an Offspring’s Significant Other in tow. For my friend Laney, a mom of two college-aged sons, having one of their SO’s under her roof recently was a real eye-opener.
Here she graciously shares what she learned:
1. "No matter which nail salon you treat your Offspring’s Significant Other to a manicure in, you can be sure that BOTH of you will know someone there, and then you will have to talk about stuff that you don't want to, like: “Who is this young woman that is with you? A daughter that you have concealed for 21 years? Your husband’s secret girlfriend? Yours?’"
2. "Always be nice to the Offspring’s Significant Other because they have their own cell phone on which they can call to report everything that is going on at that very moment to their own parents. Right in front of you. Hopefully only good stuff but that's only if your child (their boyfriend) is cooperating."
3. "Sleeping Situations: forget about it! No need for guest rooms, extra cottages, or convents. They do what they want to do, when they want to do it -- as long as it's not in your car. In other words, make sure that your kids have a double bed or an air mattress that sleeps two. No comment."
4."Don't ask questions about anything unless it pertains to where or what you all will be eating out the next night. Don't ask about your own child's health, workload, plans post-college, etc."
The upside? Terrific, x-chromosomed company at the nail salon, chick flick, or to split the salad pizza. And someone else who really gets – and loves – your offspring as much as you do. The manicure: $15. The gift of an almost daughter without the muss and fuss? Priceless.