Parents Attitudes of Teenagers

Figure 1

Words That Describe Teenagers

Selfish, moody, idealistic, unpredictable, funny, lethargic, psychotic, irresponsible, surly, independent, angry, irritable, dependent, demanding, sullen, selectively responsible, manipulative, challenging, sulky, posturing, argumentative, disrespectful, stubborn, sneaky, scared, insecure, narcissistic, vulnerable, hungry, sleepy, and aloof.

Issues and Decisions Teenagers Face

Types of friends they want, kind of friend they want to be, sexual relations, sexuality, alcohol and drugs, importance of school and grades, class issues, economic worries, racism, existential identity, relationship to family, figuring out who they are and what they stand for, matching their insides with their self-perceived outsides, college, career, AIDS, daily violence around them, environmental concerns, ambiguity about ail of the above.

Figure 2

How Do Parents Show Their Attitudes Toward Their Children?

  • Infant

    Lots of attention, encouragement, play, toys, affection, wanting to be with them, singing, touching, reading aloud, showing off, pride, excitement, providing for, pure joy, "can't get enough" of the infant, total acceptance.

  • Third Grader

    Involvement in their life, organizing their activities (dance, music, sports, etc.), encouragement and monitoring in school, teaching, helping with homework, giving responsibilities and overseeing them, gentle criticism, gentle feedback, limits and rules with limited freedom, teaching difference between right and wrong, appropriate expectations.

  • Sophomore

    Yelling, lots of guilt, excessive limits and rules, over-control, encouragement, choice, unrealistic expectations, nagging, support, punishment, limited praise, harsh criticism, over-interest in their life (excessive and obsessive), "little talks" and family dinners, "too much fun equals trouble," focus on their friends and types of people they are, judgmental, jealousy, lack of meaningful contact, conflict, loud arguing, too many questions, no trust.

Excerpted from "Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers." Copyright © 1995 by Michael Riera. Reprinted with permission from Celestial Arts, Berkeley, CA.

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