Most parents try to keep spousal spats out of kids' sight

Cjjulzlady adds: "We have had a few big blowouts, but like me, my husband tends to respond very strongly to people being angry and loud around him, so they always end very quickly. We do argue in front of the kids, but not in the adversarial sense of the word. We're more open to debating our sides of the issue when we vehemently disagree."

djknappsak has a different take on the issue: "One day my husband and I started arguing, and it got very heated. We were in the garage, and I mistakenly thought my stepdaughter could not hear us. When I stomped upstairs in my righteous indignation, she was sitting on the couch and was in complete hysterics. I have never felt so small in my life.


"While I don't think that having our kids see us disagree is at all wrong, they do need to understand that you can disagree and still love each other; seeing us have a knock-down-drag-out verbal battle is unacceptable. That's just how I feel about it."

Opinions on this subject vary by situation as well as personality, but one thing is clear: parents want what's best for their kids. Arguing in front of your children may not be a pleasant lesson to teach, but some parents feels it's healthy for kids to see their parents having a constructive disagreement. Who knows? Perhaps, in an effort to do right by your children, you and your spouse could modify your own methods of arguing in a way that's beneficial to your relationship -- and avoid saying things you may later regret.

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