Birth Mother Five: DNA
Months went by before I received another call. I told only my husband and online friends. A couple of days later I received another call to go to the hospital. This situation involved a 26-year-old married mother of three. She had made an adoption plan for her baby because it was not her husband's child. Now, does that not sound familiar? Everything about this was familiar. Even the words this girl used reminded me of J. To top it off, she was at the same hospital. At the time I felt that this baby would be mine and that what happened before had been God's way of preparing me.
Now I believe God was really asking me to consider an important question: Just how many times are you going to step in the same hole, Sheri?
The mother gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, who appeared to be Caucasian, although he was one-eighth African-American. The birth mother and her husband are Caucasian. The husband was shocked by the baby's skin tone and insisted on a DNA test. His wife had confided to him that her affair had been with a biracial man. The husband had assumed that the darker skin genes would dominate. I wanted to know why I kept finding myself in these situations.
Why was it so hard to adopt? If the baby had a darker skin tone, I know he would have come home with us. Instead, the couple decided to take the baby home and wait for the DNA test results. Over the following three weeks, the birth mother and I stayed in constant contact. She repeatedly reassured me that the baby could not be her husband's and that they absolutely would not keep him. I trusted her. My love and hopes grew with each passing moment.
In the end the couple decided to keep the baby, despite the DNA results.
Find out where this domestic adoption saga leads in the following installments: