During prime prom season, teens rent tuxes, procure dates and make (sometimes ambitious) plans for the big night. Prom can be the ultimate 'big deal' to teens, partly because of the tradition that prom night doesn't end when the dance does. Just because it's common practice for prom-goers to stay out all night, should parents waive curfew for the big night? The parents of Parent Soup have been sharing their angst about whether or not to let their kids stay out until morning. Here, they share their ideas about 'parent-approved' ways for kids to have fun and be safe.
"I had a problem with the idea of post-prom parties. It seemed that 'everyone' had plans to stay out all night. The only way we would allow our 16-year-old daughter to do this was by having a 'lock-in' at a friend's home. I talked with the parents and found out there was no coming and going, zero tolerance for alcohol and that the parents would be there all night. The teens were not deprived of any fun, but enjoyed the night together with friends, slept a while then cooked breakfast together."
"We decided to sit down and talk to our son about his plans for after the prom. He explained that the after-prom party was going to be at a student's house, with parents there. The kids had to stay all night, and the parents were going to supervise the entire party. I asked if I could call and speak to the parents, and to my surprise he said, 'Go ahead!' I called, and sure enough everything that he told us was true. So the kids all brought their sleeping bags and pillows, ate snacks, listened to music, watched a movie and slept a bit. The parents woke them up to a home cooked breakfast before sending them home. He enjoyed himself, and we knew that he was safe. Talking to him about his plans was the best thing that we could have done. Calling the parents set our mind at ease (and we weren't the only ones to call either). Thank goodness for the wonderful parents who gave their time and their house for the good of all the teens that attended."