"Bowling is a great idea. Depending on where you live, some bowling alleys offer a 'Rock N Bowl' where they play really loud rock music. Some have 'Black Light Bowling' where they turn all the lights out and use glow-in-the dark pins. Check with your local bowling alleys and see what they offer. Ever try to bowl in a prom dress? Should be fun."
"For the last several years, our school has held an after prom party. Parents organize it, volunteer as chaperones, and donate food. They solicit donations from local businesses and have prize drawings throughout the night, everything from bikes, stereos, TVs, to coupons for free bowling, video rentals and pizzas. It starts after prom and goes on until 4 or 5 a.m. The gym is open for basketball and volleyball, the pool for swimming, or the kids can just hang out, listen to tunes and be together. It's been a real popular event here."
"In our town, even kids in the 10th grade stay in hotel rooms after the prom, with no adult supervision. In the past, we have told our son that he absolutely could not spend the night in a hotel room. Why put a child in an adult situation? But since he is a senior this year, and he has never given us any problems, we thought he should be allowed to go this year. He went this past weekend and everything went great. I will say I was very nervous and cried my eyes out when he drove off. But once the next afternoon arrived and he was home safely, we knew we had made the right decision."
"I'm a foster mom to many teenagers and I say that if it were one of my kids who is 18, I'd let him go to an all-night party. It's hard letting go...boy do I know that. But part of our jobs as parents is to teach these kids how to fly. I don't suggest you just let him do whatever he wants just because he's 18, but I do suggest you look at your own motives for not wanting him to go. Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between having his best interests in mind and not wanting to let go of our child because we are scared. Of course, safety comes first and you should tell him that you don't want him to drink, but if he does and gets caught, he needs to take responsibility for it. You're not giving him permission, you're giving him choices. And with all choices come consequences. I had a very difficult time making this decision with my foster son, but ultimately I let him go to the party. He came home the next morning having had an excellent last blast with his friends and he didn't drink at all. He was very responsible in the choices he made and the choices he's made since then. Have some faith and trust in your son -- it goes a long way."