When are you most likely to orgasm quickly? During solo sex. Why? Because you're in control. But who says you can't take charge of your orgasm during intercourse? In this excerpt from her book 5 Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love, author D. Claire Hutchins gives the play-by-play on exactly how to achieve orgasm at your pace
After you and your partner have participated in foreplay, however much you want, and when you feel ready for sex, have your man lie on his back, his penis aroused and standing ready for you to straddle him. Don't be in too much of a hurry to get him inside of you. Take advantage of the opportunity to display your body; he will love watching you work. With him on his back and you on your knees, swing one leg over him and balance your weight on your knees. Then lean forward to take some of your weight on your hands. Take his penis in hand and rub your moist vaginal lips and clitoris against it. Tease the head of his penis by sliding it back and forth across your vaginal opening, occasionally inserting just the tip and taking it out again. Finally, slide it in gently and slowly. You may need to use a free hand, or he can use his, to guide his penis into your vagina. Straddling his thighs, you lower yourself onto his penis. Once he is inside of you, sink down on him, remaining upright from the waist up.
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