Photo Credit: Rosie Pope Maternity
Last night on Pregnant in Heels, Rosie Pope sent two of her clients on babymoons in the Dominican Republic -- but she had more in mind than just fun in the sun for these couples. From a 7 a.m. call time on Day 1, it was a relationship workshop for the two expectant couples, who weren't exactly feeling the love for their spouses. Read on for Rosie's pre-parenthood relationship advice.
Having a baby is tough on a marriage, and these couples are already at each others' throats! What's your best advice on how parents-to-be can strengthen their relationship before bringing home baby?
See those 40 weeks of pregnancy as a relationship boot camp opportunity. Make sure you get into the practice of communicating and talking through everything that's going on, from sex to parenting decisions. Flexing your communication muscles now will stand you in good stead when that baby arrives. Also, take the time during pregnancy to tend to your relationship as a couple, not as parents-to-be -- it's important that you don't just see each other as a mom or a dad but still the man/woman you fell in love with. This means making time for dates, intimacy and talking about things other than just baby.
What are your top three tips for couples to prepare for a baby?
First, learn to laugh together. There will be many challenges ahead, so aim for less finger pointing and more teamwork. And when you can do nothing else, laugh! Second, spend time not preparing for the baby. By this I mean spend time as a couple, tending to each other and not the imminent arrival. Finally, spend time learning about your baby together. It will bring you closer together.
How can couples "baby-proof" their relationship?
As the book says, "sex" is how your baby-proof your marriage. I know, I hear you all looking confused. But what I'm talking about is intimacy. Don't just become parents and roommates but keep the romance going. It takes work but it will keep the connection and the excitement going that you need to not only be together for the long run but also teach your children about healthy relationships.
You brought both couples in this week's episode on a babymoon. Why is it important to take that time as a couple before baby arrives? And what's your advice for couples who just can't get away?
It doesn't matter where your babymoon is, what's important is that you shut off your daily lives and routines and take the time to just be with each other. In my opinion, babymoons are less about preparing for the baby and more of a vacation from the idea of having a baby so you can connect with each other and strengthen your relationship. If you're having a 'staycation' make it special; have dinners together and take long walks. Don't use that time to re-arrange your closet or catch up on some ball games!
Rosie Pope is a clothing designer, maternity concierge and the star of Bravo's 'Pregnant in Heels.' Read her Q&A with iVillage Parenting every Wednesday after the show. Follow her on Twitter: @RosiePope, or find her at rosiepope.com.