Are you a good cyberflirt? It's no secret that men and women approach romance differently -- men are visually stimulated while women are often charmed by verbal skills -- and the same holds true for online dating. But if you're looking for a few hints about what makes a man click (so to speak), read on. You'll find honest opinions from real men about what works online, what doesn't and what to do when you meet offline for the first time.
A picture says 1,000 words-- maybe more
"The picture is the key item to get me interested in reading a girl's bio. It's the candid snapshot of her having a good time that makes me think maybe we'll have a good time together. If the photo is taken specifically for the [profile] or seems too serious, I'll skip it."
--Alex, 28, banker, NY
"The picture is the first thing I always look at. It honestly doesn't matter what the profile says if the picture doesn't spark interest. I don't mean this in a horribly shallow way."
--Shaun, 29, software development manager, NY
"If you do not have a picture posted, you will most likely have to be more aggressive. Be clear that you're not comfortable with having your picture on the Internet but you'd be happy to supply one eventually."
--Jamie, 30, software sales account executive, NY
"Make sure the photo is big enough to see easily. But no photos of you in a bikini or a really low-cut shirt bending over for obvious reasons. These make guys think that you're all about your body or maybe you haven't matured into 'relationship' mode yet."
--Shaun, 29, software development manager, NY
A picture says 1,000 words
"The picture is the key item to get me interested in reading a girl's bio. It's the candid snapshot of her having a good time that makes me think maybe we'll have a good time together. If the photo is taken specifically for the [profile] or seems too serious, I'll skip it."
--Alex, 28, banker, NY
"The picture is the first thing I always look at. It honestly doesn't matter what the profile says if the picture doesn't spark interest. I don't mean this in a horribly shallow way."
--Shaun, 29, software development manager, NY
"If you do not have a picture posted, you will most likely have to be more aggressive. Be clear that you're not comfortable with having your picture on the Internet but you'd be happy to supply one eventually."
--Jamie, 30, software sales account executive, NY
"Make sure the photo is big enough to see easily. But no photos of you in a bikini or a really low-cut shirt bending over for obvious reasons. These make guys think that you're all about your body or maybe you haven't matured into 'relationship' mode yet."
--Shaun, 29, software development manager, NY
