The Recognizing and Dealing with Domestic Abuse board has served two purposes for me. Over time I have learned that those who have never experienced the pain have trouble hearing about it from the sufferer. There may be an initial sense of sympathy, but later there is too much negativity for them to handle. This board has provided a release. One can complain or show pain, and no one will turn their back.
The second benefit of this board is the advice I have gotten here. Without hearing about other people's experiences, there is no way I would have known how 'not alone' I really was. To hear of how other people handle the same problems gives a rich resource of ideas on how to heal more quickly and improve one's life. It helped lift me out of a well of misery.
This board is indispensable for anyone who is going through or has gone through what we have. A million thanks to those who keep it going strong.
The Recognizing and Dealing with Domestic Abuse board has helped me understand myself, and learn that there wasn't something inherently wrong with me, just the relationship I was in. It helped me understand that the whole relationship was unhealthy -- not just a few arguments that got out of hand, as I had thought. I learned that I needed to take the time to get to know myself and heal so I didn't end up with another man like my ex- (or worse). It gave me the strength to start listening to my inner voice again, and to no longer let other people push me into doing what they wanted, instead of doing what I wanted and needed for myself.