I recently polled my single-and-ready-to-mingle girlfriends and discovered a startling statistic. Collectively, we spend about 20 hours a week dating online. 20 hours! That is, time spent browsing dating sites, contacting prospective matches, emailing back and forth, talking on the phone, arranging dates and actually going on dates. No wonder it sometimes feels like a part-time job. Add in the time it takes to drive to and from these dates in a city as sprawling as Los Angeles, where we live and date? Well, no wonder we're exhausted.
A few days later, a friend emailed me a link to FlirtingInTraffic.com. I was hardly looking for yet another online dating site, but as a relationship writer, I was intrigued by the new concept. Who hasn't pulled up next to a good-looking guy at a red light before? I even have one friend who had a fender bender with one! (So Ally McBeal , right?)
That night, several of my single girlfriends gathered at my place to hang out, and I mentioned it. After we had a few cocktails in our systems, we each took turns logging on to my laptop, creating our FlirtingInTraffic.com profiles, uploading photos of ourselves and our cars and then printing our FIT bumper stickers. (That's how potential suitors know you're an FIT member, so they can look you up by your sticker number on the site.)
Then came the fun part — perusing profiles in our area. Another round of drinks and we were whistling and catcalling like construction workers; there are some definite cuties cruising around our fair city. And I can't say I was surprised, given the guy I had seen driving by my bagel place just that morning. So right then and there, we toasted to our new dating endeavor. We joined the ranks of flirters currently online — and two of my friends actually ended up emailing guys they thought seemed interesting.
In the weeks that followed, we all received email from FlirtingInTraffic.com members. A few of us have enjoyed email exchanges with potential matches. One of my friends even went out for coffee with an FIT cutie. They're going on a second date next week.
As for me, I've kept any flirting online for now — and I've yet to spot any FIT stickers, but I know they're out there. In the meantime, this commuter-friendly Angeleno is definitely getting her traffic flirt on! While stuck in bumper-to-bumper traffic on the 405 the other day, I waved back to the brown-eyed boy in the truck next to me. And I no longer felt cheated when his lane of traffic surged forward without me, because another guy could pull up at any time. And that's the beauty of being single and ready to mingle: You never know when the one you've been waiting to meet will unexpectedly come around the corner.