“To an adult, a broken cookie is not a big deal, of course. But to children, it can symbolize that their world is upside down. It’s not what they expected, it’s not what they want, and it can literally feel insurmountable,” says Dr. Klagsbrun. So think of a broken cookie every time you feel the urge to minimize your kids’ feelings and reason with them about why they shouldn’t be devastated by something you perceive as insignificant or absurd. The cookie may still taste delicious broken in pieces, but to them it’s just not the same.