Remember the days when earning $5 for every "A" you earned in school was a great incentive? These days, teens have their own jobs and make their own money. Monetary rewards just don't send the same message. Below is a conversation that took place on the message boards at Parent Soup. In it, the parents put their heads together to brainstorm meaningful ways to recognize a teen's achievements and reward them in a meaningful way.
"Does anybody have an innovative idea on how to reward a 16-year-old for a great report card? We've done money, and I'm looking for a new idea. I don't want it to go unrecognized. I want her to know how proud of her we are and want her to continue to want to work hard. Any suggestions?"
"My son, who is also 16, yearns for independence right now -- concerts out of town (still on the no list) and the like. Maybe if there is a concert out of town she wants to go to, or someone she can go visit on her own (maybe a family member who's out of town, but she drives herself), that would serve."
"I was given a charm bracelet when I was young and any special event that happened a charm was added. The bracelet had my name engraved on it and was bought when I was four. The amazing thing is that I can still wear it at 30-something.I love wearing it because I can show it off to friends and talk about each memory."
"How about offering to send her and a friend on a night out somewhere that they normally could not go to or could not afford to do? Somewhere like dinner a very nice restaurant and maybe a play afterwards? Something more grown up that gives her a feeling of something special."