When was the last time you went on a great date... with your husband or significant other? We're talking one-on-one, no-kids-around quality time. (No cheating.) If the answer is "too long ago to remember," the advice in Marriage Fitness: 4 Steps to Building & Maintaining Phenomenal Love might be surprising. In his book, marriage coach and author Mort Fertel says a happy marriage requires scheduled fun time together every week. In fact, he says that the most successful marriages are those in which the rules of dating '- be romantic, make special plans in advance and so on '- still apply. In this excerpt, he shares four ideas for making date night a regular part of your happily married routine:
I know a couple who were avid tennis players. They enjoyed tennis together throughout their courtship. Two years after they married, their marriage was in trouble. When was the last time they played tennis together? About two years ago. Is tennis only for dating?
How did you spend time together when you fell in love? How often did you go out when you were dating? It's time to start dating again '- dating your spouse.
I don't think it's possible to succeed in marriage and experience true love without spending at least one night a week together.
Date night can work magic in your marriage if you follow four guidelines.
1. Get out of the house. No activity at home counts toward date night. Home will remind you of your practical and logistical matters. And if you have children... well, that's not a date.