Should You Tell Colleagues You're Dating a Coworker?
Around 40 percent of people say they’ve dated a coworker, according to a 2011 survey conducted by Careerbuilder.com. That shouldn't be surprising -- after all, Americans spend an average of 9 hours a day at the office, so the likelihood of meeting someone there who sparks a romantic interest is pretty high. Unless you’re at, or nearing, the engaged or married stage in your office romance, though, it’s best to keep your relationship a secret. You don’t want to give the impression to your peers or, worse, your bosses, that you don’t take your job seriously. Even if you stay mum, keeping the romance under wraps may be tougher than you think: “Do you really ‘tell’ coworkers? Or do you delude yourself that they haven’t figured it out before the day you acknowledged what they already know?” asks Stephanie Losee, co-author of Office Mate: Your Employee Handbook for Romance on the Job. “Just as often, they identify a couple-in-the-making before the couple has even admitted it to themselves.” But that doesn't mean you can't demur when you're asked.