I have previously talked about the perils of who you bring shopping with you in my post “Shopping Posse or Not?” And I just recently had another terrible example of what a big mistake it is to bring the wrong people shopping with you if you want to accomplish anything.
I get quite a few tourists in the store who come specifically because they have seen us on “What Not to Wear” or have found us on the net. So a plus-size girl will try to squeeze us in on her visit to New York. On Saturday night a young lady from the Midwest came in with several friends. It was a big mess!
There were a nasty couple of very skinny snot faces, and a couple of other girlfriends. The woman snot face tried to be a half ass stylist for her friend. I mean she was a size two, and had no conception what would look good on her friend's shape. I don’t really blame her, because I have seen professional stylists for big name stars come into my store and have the same problem. They can’t look at something and visualize how it would look on an apple shape because it is outside of their experience. They don’t know enough to know what they don’t know. So the friend pulled out ridiculous dresses that would never work. I stepped in and started guiding her into some bodies that would look flattering on her. Her friends had nothing to do and started acting out. They kept looking at their watches and going in and out of the store. This made no sense since it was about 90 degrees outside and we had the air conditioning blasting, so nobody in their right mind would want to be outside.
The girl was very apologetic to her friends. “Oh, I will be finished in a minute. I just want to try on one more thing. I am almost done.” All the while, her friends were going in and out of the store and loudly talking about dinner reservations and such. I mean how many times did she wait patiently for her friends as they cooed and squealed over the dresses they had picked out for themselves? I am sure she did not find something wrong with every single thing they tried on.
I was able to find a couple of great pieces and I asked her if she had ever heard about Spanx. She had, but she had never tried them on. It was a revelation for her. She felt great, and wore them out of the store with her jeans. All that was in the last five minutes she was able to squeeze out from her impatient friends.
Earlier that day I had someone come in who did it right. This woman was from the South, and was visiting her daughter who had moved to New York. She scheduled some time for herself and came to the store and spent some time trying on different “looks,” and left with a very nice group of clothing without any fuss or muss from a bored peanut gallery.
It’s like that TLC show “Say Yes to the Dress.” You see all these brides shopping with their mothers, mother-in-laws, maids of honor, sisters, and friends. You see how everyone has their own opinion, and most of the time it is negative. You really have to please yourself. Find something that you feel good about. You can listen to other people, but don’t be a wuss. Make up your own mind. Remember you have to wear it. Ask questions of the sales help:
- What kind of accessories would you wear with this?
- Can I wear it with heels, flats, or both?
- Will I be able to take this into the next season?
Listen to what they have to say and see if it makes sense to you.
Do you need someone else’s approval to say Yes to the Dress?