The Secret of Sexual Arousal

Now, we're going to focus on those parts of the Sexual Response Cycle known as Desire and Excitement. This is when sexual arousal kicks in on the physical level and your body becomes interested in engaging in a sexual experience, either alone or with a partner. During the Desire phase, you begin the warm up -- literally. Blood, juices and heat start to flow. In the Excitement phase, all of your physiological signs are active. These may include: lubricated genitals, increased body heat, swollen outer and inner lips, heightened genital sensation, increased breathing and erect nipples. It is at this stage of the cycle that maintaining your arousal becomes crucial, if you want to feel satisfied sexually.

Arousal is a personal thing. I am always amazed at the intricacies of what turns a person on. Most women seem to thrive on mouth-to-mouth kissing as a way to propel and sustain their arousal during the Desire and Excitement phases. This makes sense, because tongue-touching and deep, connective kissing actually activates the physiological responses that trigger the hormones and bodily activities to create an arousal response. It follows, then, that if you learn how to kiss and be kissed well, then the rest will follow. Be sure to check out Lou Paget's Love Lesson, Kiss Your Way to Better Sex. Also, a new video, Ancient Secrets of the Kama Sutra, (available from Pacific Media Entertainment at 1-800-262-7367 and soon to be available on my Website) has one of the steamiest kissing lessons I've ever witnessed. Using the ancient Persian lovemaking text and the Kama Sutra of Vatsayama as its basis, the film illustrates how to make love, from top to bottom and awakens your mind to follow the lead of the couples on the screen and allows your own arouse-ability to do its thing. This week, I encourage you to follow the Love Lesson or watch the tape. Stop this tape as you go, to practice and feel its impact.

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